Sisterly Advice: 5 Things You Need To Quit For A Healthier You
Good Morning, queens!
Let’s just dive right in today. Life is already complicated enough, so why are some of us adding stress and dysfunction unnecessarily? I’m here to sprinkle a little sisterly advice to help you recognise the habits you need to kick to the curb ASAP! This isn’t about judgement but about growth, happiness, and being the best version of you. None of us are perfect, but sometimes we need a wake-up call to get things moving in the right direction. So, let’s get into it!
1. Begging Men To Stay (Regardless of What Happened)
Listen, I know love can make you do some wild things, but begging a man to stay after cheating or any other betrayal on your part? Absolutely NOT!
Men are logical creatures, and once they decide they’re done, they’re DONE. You crying, pleading, and grovelling like a cockapoo puppy won’t change that, it’ll only crush your dignity. I recently saw a clip of Zara McDermott after them ending their 5 year relationship begging Sam Thompson (Made In Chelsea) to not give up on their relationship after a fling she had. Whether it was staged or not, it was cringeworthy as hell to watch. (check video out here.)
You’re a whole grown woman! This also goes for you, the other way around when a man/woman cheats on you or betrays you too! Your integrity is too precious for this. Stop begging someone who’s already checked out and learn to walk away with your head held high. It’s not cute, and it doesn’t work.
How You Can Change This Right Now:
- Remember your self respect and worth, write it down if you have to.
- Surround yourself with uplifting friends who remind you of your value.
- Work on your self-esteem so you’re no longer tempted to “perform” for anyone to stay in your life.
2. Staying In Relationships That No Longer Serve You
Oh, the number of women out here beating a dead horse, trying to convince themselves and the world that things will change when every sign is screaming otherwise!
babes, let me spell it out for you: staying in a toxic, draining, non productive relationship blocks your blessings. Holding on to someone who’s not for you keeps you from meeting the right person or worse, from healing and finding joy in yourself.
How You Can Change This Right Now:
- Make a list of all the ways your relationship isn’t serving you.
- Commit to letting go and start planning your exit.
- Seek therapy or a support group if walking away feels overwhelming.
3. Complaining To Your Friends About The Same Old Drama
Yes, friends are there to lean on, but constantly dumping the same sob story on them will drive them up the wall. Let’s be real: most of them won’t tell you they’re fed up. They’ll just quietly pull back from you.
I get it you want to vent. But, your not a parrot and if your friends aren’t seeing any changes from you in terms of real solutions, your complaints can start to become draining for everyone.
How You Can Change This Right Now:
- Journal about your frustrations instead of constantly offloading on your friends.
- Take accountability for your decisions and focus on finding active solutions.
- Limit how often you bring up your relationship issues, or better yet, take it to therapy.
4. Trying To Look Like Everyone Else
Social media will have you feeling like you need fillers, Botox, wigs, bat lashes, heavy make up, and designer everything just to survive. It’s exhausting, and it breeds insecurity. Who even are we without these “must-haves” dictated by toxic trends?
Let’s be real, ladies! So much of what’s hyped these days is neither sustainable nor necessary. Truth is, a lot of these women projecting "perfection" are dealing with deep-rooted insecurities, masking it with self-absorption. One of my favourite YouTubers, Chioma Chats, breaks this down beautifully in her videos (check video out here).
Your beauty doesn’t come from copying every trend or aesthetic out there. It shines through when you embrace your unique self. So, stop picking apart your natural features just because some “influencer” made you feel like you’re not enough. You already are THAT girl effortlessly.
And let’s not forget, it’s disheartening to see ads that fail to set a positive example for younger generations. Instead of promoting self-confidence, kindness, and authenticity, they push materialism, shallowness, and vanity. These messages prioritise appearances over substance, teaching younger people to focus on being materialistic and vain rather than celebrating their individuality and true worth. We all deserve better.
How You Can Change This Right Now:
- Take regular breaks from social media to reconnect with your real self.
- Focus on health and wellness over vanity, it’s way more fulfilling.
- Stop comparing your chapter 1 to someone’s fake highlight reel.
5. Carrying The Weight Of Everyone Else’s Problems
This one hits hard for so many women. How often are you the “fixer” in your family, friend group, or relationship? Even your baby father your no longer with phahaha for God sake! YOU know what I'm talking about! Always taking on everyone’s drama and responsibilities, sacrificing your own peace for the sake of others?
This needs to stop. Being a strong woman doesn’t mean you have to bear everyone else’s burdens. You are not a dumping ground for other people’s problems, and trying to fix everyone around you will only drain you emotionally, physically, and spiritually.
How You Can Change This Right Now:
- Set boundaries. “No” is a complete sentence, and you owe no one an explanation. Do not fold on it either!
- Practice self-care without guilt, it’s not selfish; it’s survival.
- Encourage others to seek professional help instead of relying solely on you.
It’s Time to Choose You
Which habit are you ready to quit? Or have you already ditched one of these and seen the difference? Drop your thoughts below. Let’s inspire each other!
Ciao babes!🧡
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