Being the Friend You’d Love to Have: Essential Friendship Tips for Your 30s and Beyond

Hey, lovely readers! Welcome back to Morning Coffee, where we dive into all things life, love, and connection. Today, I want to talk about something close to all our hearts: being a better friend as we navigate our 30s (and beyond!). Life gets busy, careers and families demand our energy, and personal growth takes centre stage but through all that chaos, friendships remain absolutely vital.

So, how can we be better friends, even when life is full to the brim? Here are some tips to help you stay connected, supportive, and cherished in your friendships.

 

Stay Connected, Even When You're Busy

life happens, and friendships can sometimes take a back seat. But staying connected is what keeps those bonds alive. A quick message, a voice note, or even a ten-minute call twice a month can do wonders. It's less about how often you connect and more about the consistency and genuine care you show.

Being present doesn’t require grand gestures. It’s about the little things that make your friends feel seen and valued. Trust me, a heartfelt “How are you doing?” can go a long way.

Reliability is Everything

Reliability becomes a non-negotiable in your 30s and beyond. When life feels like a juggling act, knowing you can count on your friends (and vice versa) is essential.

• Stick to plans: Don’t constantly flake unless it’s absolutely necessary.
• Communicate openly: If something comes up, let them know.
• Keep confidences: When your friend trusts you with something personal, honour that trust.

Being dependable shows that you genuinely value the friendship, and it’s the glue that keeps long-term connections strong.

 

Communication is Key

Misunderstandings happen, but brushing them aside or ghosting your friends only creates bigger cracks over time. We're not 15 anymore ladies! Open, honest conversations are the foundation of healthy friendships.

If you feel the friendship has become unbalanced or there's an issue brewing, talk about it. Sure, those chats might feel awkward, but they’re worth it. Remember, friendships should add value to your life not drain it. If they’re not, it’s okay to reassess and create space for more aligned connections.

 

4. Celebrate Their Wins

Whether it’s a promotion, a creative project, or even surviving a hectic week, make an effort to celebrate your friends’ wins. Your 30s are full of milestones some big, some subtle and being a cheerleader strengthens your bond.

Leave the envy at the door. Celebrate your friends like you’d want them to celebrate you, and remember, there’s more than enough room at the table for everyone’s success.

 

Show Up During Tough Times

Being a true friend isn’t just about showing up for the good times; it’s about standing by each other when things fall apart. When life gets messy, offer comfort, be a sounding board, or simply sit in silence.

Sometimes your presence, no matter physically or emotionally is all they need. A friendship that endures life’s storms will always feel more meaningful.

Fun Ways to Reconnect

Feeling like your friendships need a little TLC? Try one of these:

• Host a themed dinner party. Make it quirky fancy dress night or a potluck featuring a favourite cuisine.
• Plan a weekend getaway. A short trip or staycation can work wonders for rekindling that spark.
• Take a class together. Painting, yoga, or cooking learning something new together creates memories and strengthens bonds.

Don’t Force It

Here’s a truth, we don’t talk about enough: not all friendships are meant to last forever unfortunately. Sometimes you meet new people who are better friends to you than the friendships you have had for years upon years! If you’ve outgrown a friendship or it’s feeling one-sided, it’s okay to let it go.

Authentic connections happen naturally they don’t need constant chasing or convincing. Focus on the friendships that bring you joy, are respectful, and has mutual effort.

 

Why Does This All Matter?

 

Because good friends are your chosen family. They’ll laugh with you, cry with you, and help you grow into the best version of yourself. Being a better friend not only enriches your connections but also enriches your life.

Remember, it’s a two-way street. Your efforts inspire others to match that energy. And if they don’t? Well, that’s your sign to invest your time where it truly matters.

And if you're looking to learn more about the importance of strong friendships? Check out:

• The Health Benefits of Strong Relationships – Harvard Health Publishing
• How Friendships Change in Adulthood – Verywell Mind

 

Let’s Be the Friends We Want to Have

 

So, with that being said let’s make a pact, Shenanigans readers: let’s be the kind of friends we’d love to have. Life is too precious for surface-level connections or one-sided relationships. I hope this helps you in some way, and come back for more Morning Coffee and stay connected! Ciao!